Monday, September 13, 2010

What Drives You?

People are motivated by different things.  What's "your thing?"

No matter what we are doing in life, we need to have a purpose.  That may be one long-term goal, or that may be several different goals along the way.  It's important that you identify what is most important for YOU.  You can't live your whole life doing what others expect of you and find gratification in doing so.  Unless your life-long desire is to make others happy, a people-pleaser, then you need to stop and explore, "What do I really want to do some day?"

Does this approach sound selfish?  It's really not.  Everyone around you (except maybe your boss) wants you to be happy, everyone that truly cares for you any way.  What would be satisfying to you?  We don't let ourselves explore this thought process often enough.  Everyone needs "me time".  We need to focus on self from time-to-time.  If you are a Mom, then you are likely to be focused on the family, and children in particular.  If that's you, more power to you.  We need great parents to develop our children.  As parents, we devoted endless hours to our children when they were in grade school.  I coached every sport in which they were involved prior to school sports, and we never missed one of their games during school activities.  When they wanted to participate in talent shows, my wife would stay up all night to get their costumes or props ready, if necessary.  She read to them every night before they went to bed.  I was often still at work.  Owning my own traditional business, a software company, was one of those dreams that didn't turn out as expected--it owned me for 7 years.

So, what is it that you would love to be doing?
Writing a book?  Children's books?  Novel?
Riding horses?
Traveling the world?
Founding and working your own charitable foundation?
New car every year?
Volunteering at Hospice or other organizations?
New home?  Second home?  Lake home?
Missionary work?

Whatever it is that you would love to be doing, you need to identify it.  That will give you a purpose and reason, to develop a plan to attain that goal or dream.

If you never develop the plan (the goals) to achieve what you want, you will never attain them.  Define and set goals.  Work to achieve those goals.  Be focused and never quit.  Applying these principles in your pursuit of happiness is critical.

Have a great day!

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